So this past weekend we headed out for a few days in the mountains. As we were packing up, I noticed Steve hadn’t yet packed his toothbrush. Wishing to avoid a weekend with him without proper oral hygiene, I reminded him to grab it. He went into the bathroom to get it.
“It’s not here,” he said, referencing the toothbrush holder on our bathroom counter.
“Yes it is. I left a couple of toothbrushes in the holder when I grabbed mine,” I answered.
There were two toothbrushes in the holder that I hadn’t been using, so I knew he had forgotten his.
“Look. I already packed mine,” I told him. I showed him the toothbrush in my bag.
“That’s my toothbrush,” he replied.
“No. It’s mine. It’s the one I’ve been using.”
“Then you’ve been using my toothbrush.”
“Really?” I balked. “Are you sure? I’m pretty sure this one is mine. I used it this morning.”
“Yes,” he said, inspecting it more closely. “That’s mine. You’ve been using my toothbrush.”
“How do you know? They all look alike.”
We buy our toothbrushes in bulk from Costco. The Oral B package of soft-bristle brushes contains eight, spanking-new brushes in four, color combinations. We’re both fairly consistent about changing our brushes out every couple of months because, well, we buy them in bulk at Costco so why not? Because of the multiple color combinations, though, it can be easy to forget which toothbrush is your current one. I mean, by the time you’ve gotten used to your brush and have memorized which one it is, you’ve chosen a new one and have to remember it. We’re getting old. It’s hard to keep track of things, you know?
“I’m sorry,” I said. “I was sure that one was mine. It’s not a big deal, though. Here you go.”
I handed him the toothbrush so he could pack it. I turned around and went into the bedroom to pack some other things. When I walked back into the bathroom, I noticed the toothbrush in question was now in the trashcan along with the other two toothbrushes that had been in the holder.
“You threw them all out?” I asked incredulously. “Really?”
“Since we don’t know whose is whose, we’ll just start over. I’ll buy a new one when we get there,” he replied, as if this were the most logical solution.
What the heck? Suddenly I was feeling downright dirty. I began wondering if the Board of Health might need to shut me down as a contamination risk.
“Am I diseased or something? Is that why you can’t keep any toothbrush that might have been in my mouth?”
“It’s just gross,” he said. “I’m pretty sure other people would agree with me.”
“The toothbrush was in my mouth…the same mouth you kiss. You know that, right? We share food off the same fork sometimes. How is this any different?”
“It just is.”
“Apparently my foul mouth really does bother you,” I retorted before heading back to my packing chore.
I’m not going to lie. I was disappointed and shocked that my own husband had such virulent concerns about my hygiene. Don’t get me wrong. I understand where he’s coming from. It’s not very sanitary to share a toothbrush. That’s a fact. And I wouldn’t normally want his mouth on my toothbrush either, but I wouldn’t freak out about it if tables were turned. As a rule, I don’t like to share, especially when it comes to germs. It was just the immediate and swift manner with which he dispensed with all the compromised toothbrushes that irked me, as if he were taking no chances. Was he concerned I could have Ebola? Honestly, I wouldn’t have been thrilled to discover Steve had been using my toothbrush, but I wouldn’t have thrown it out. I would have shrugged my shoulders, given him a hard time about it (probably forever), and then eventually switched it out for a new one when I had destroyed all the bristles on it by brushing too hard. (Yes. I know this is not a good practice for my teeth and gums. I’m working on myself one flaw at a time, and this particular flaw is reasonably far down on my list of concerns.) Whatever germs don’t kill you make you stronger. At least that has always been my theory and, forty-six years into this theory, I’m still here so it appears to be working.
Let it not be said, however, that I am insensitive to my husband’s needs. After twenty years, I may not have understood his relative level of paranoid germaphobia until now, but I do know how to solve a marital problem. You find the issue that’s been rubbing you the wrong way and you find a way around it. It doesn’t even really require compromise. You simply apply a bit of creative thinking and find the win-win. So, today I dug into my resourceful brain and found a solution to our dilemma. I bought him a special treat…his own toothbrush holder to keep on his side of the double vanity. Henceforth, his toothbrush has its own kingdom and it need never be near mine. Ever again. Problem solved. Now he just has to hope I don’t hold this germaphobe thing against him. It could be a long next twenty years for him if I’m stubbornly refusing to put my mouth anywhere near him because of this slight. Not that I hold a grudge or anything. Well, if you’ll excuse me…there is a piece of cake in the fridge I’ve been saving for later. I need to go lick it to guarantee it’s mine. 😉
Thanks. If you can’t laugh at your crazy life, there’s not much left. 🙂
This was so funny to me because the same thing happened to my husband and me not too long ago. We also buy are toothbrushes in bulk (but at Sam’s, not Costco). You really can forget “whicn one is yours.” One day hubby came in where I was sitting and said, “Now what color is my toothbrush?” When I told him he informed me he had been using mine. We laughed and thought maybe we were just getting old.
Gail…I can’t decide if it’s that we’re getting old or that we just have so many other things to remember these days that the little things slip our minds. 🙂
“I would have shrugged my shoulders, given him a hard time about it (probably forever), …”
Let’s see, the “baby” turns 30 this October, and I’m still hearing about how I wouldn’t part with the $13 (in 1985 money) for the “Cabbage Patch Diapers”. An event that will live in infamy.
Be at peace,
Too funny, Paz. Some stories never die.
I have so many friends who are shocked that I would not lose it over accidentally sharing a toothbrush with my spouse. I had no idea I was such a rebel…and a gross one, at that.